Hey, my name is Randie Chapman and I have a Mother Wound.
Mother Wounds are wounds passed down from mother to daughter (and sons, etc.) that have harmed and altered the way we receive and give love. The Mother Wound affects society, the environment, laws, and even careers on a spectrum.
This wound has affected every facet of my life. And as many daughters do, I denied this wound for years, but now I accept it. I accept that I have a Mother Wound because I am ready to heal it and because I’m not just a daughter anymore, but a mom to a daughter as well and I love her.
Experts such as Bethany Webster, Jennifer Arnise, Ruth, and others have noted that the Mother Wound does not demand that we hate our mothers, nor does it require us to blame them for our shortcomings. In fact, healing the Mother Wound requires us to prioritize, re-mother, re-parent, and take care of ourselves. This healing begins and ends with us getting real about our gaps and holding ourselves accountable.
Healing the Mother Wound requires us to ask ourselves:
How have we allowed what our mothers (and their mothers and so on) give and did not give to us affect how we live, move, and create?
It’s like they say: What we have to heal from is not our fault, but it is our responsibility.
Creating to Heal
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Check Out My Work About the Mother Wound.
BMM Indie EP 141: Mothering Myself.
Randie’s stuck on a roller coaster that sends her round and round on a ride of hating herself, shaming herself, and blaming herself for Noble’s death. At least that’s what her therapist says.
But why? Why can’t Randie just be sad and mourn without beating herself up?
A phone call days before Noble’s birth may give a hint to the answer.
Tune in as the mother half of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast details revealing the truth to her therapist and discusses what it means to finally believe she is worthy.
It’s a wild thing, but somehow grief and her children are teaching Randie to mother herself.
BMM Indie 161: It Is Finally Safe
So what had happened was…Randie’s mom heard her Indie episode, Mothering Myself. And like, duh right? That was always a possibility. And still..Randie was scared shitless.
Tune in to hear about the creative block Randie’s been experiencing, her thoughts on her own cowardice behavior, and what finally accepting her safety means for her.
She wonders…what will it look like now for her to create solely for her and solely out of love for her inner child and adult self? Well, we’ll all find out together and it’ll start with this episode.